Being Possessive….

“She belongs to me!! Why can’t she keep talking to me?? Why doesn’t she tell me anything??”  These are a few questions which arise from a few people whom we see around us in our daily life. This boils down to one characteristic, Possessiveness. This particular trait can be found between the people in any relationship. They normally keep pondering over the thoughts of their friends and dear ones not being with them all the time or not sharing things with them. Possessive people normally carve for the attention of their friends or any relation that they feel secure with. Some people define it as love and care beyond limits, directed towards a particular person when we consider him/her as a part of our life.

Possessiveness is generally overpowering and commences people ending up thing deep about the relationship. It poses danger to the person who is possessive and the person he/she is being possessive of. It is due to feel of insecurity or low self esteem which in a relationship. Generally people won’t like it but they never show it out. Any relation in this world is based on 4 major factors “love, trust, intimacy and respect for people around”. These are normally called 4 pillars of a relation. When the pillars are strong everything goes well once there is some crack in the relation. The feeling of insecurity kindles and there are chances of destroying the whole relation. It s a known fact that people feel possessive of persons of the other sex.

Most of the time I hardly understand as to why people are so weird. I have found many a friends of mine who even wont allow their friends to talk to anyone else..Be yourself. Show care but don’t hurt the ones who care.If he/she is your friend then definitely they will be there for you all throughouth their lives .Trust  them. Don’t limit them nor instruct them as to whom they should speak or talk.

Loneliness!!

Man is a social creature. Normally we experience loneliness for the first time when we are away from home, family and friends and are no longer supported by familiar surroundings. Adapting to a new environment makes people uncertain of what to do or how to behave and breeds insecurities which, may be coupled with the lonely nature of job or work, can make for a real sense of isolation. For this reason, many people suffer from loneliness. Homesickness, nostalgia and many other behavioral negativities may increase the feeling of loneliness. Loneliness can be so powerful that it may bring about a deep and persistent feeling of uselessness and rejection from society.  Being alone does not represent loneliness, on the contrary being alone can be very healthy. We all need to be alone from time to time. We need to understand our self first and the best way is to be alone for a while analyse and then return back to normal life. Normally lonely people are ineffective at building relationships. They avoid communication because they think interaction may result in conflicts and conflicts or problems in a relationship mean that the relationship has ‘failed’ in some way. However this is not necessarily true, in fact healthy conflicts can make relationships stronger.  People normally prone to loneliness or feeling lonely negativity because they expect too much from friends and family. Many time their unrealistic expectations more than what they could reasonably expect from their relationships brings disillusionment, frustration and disappointment. Few of the major symptoms of feeling lonely symptom include: 

1. Bitterness towards life.
2. An inability to create, develop and maintain interpersonal relationships.
3. Self-preoccupied with excessive work.
4. Negative attitudes towards life.
5. Workholism.
6. Least interest in activities of others.
7. Lethargy.
8. Frequent sadness, loneliness or resentment.
9. A feeling of emptiness and being very much alone.
10. A feeling that your intimate needs are not being met or, if they are, they seem unsatisfying.
11. Few or no friends.
12. Excessive use of PC.
13. Feeling separated from other people.
14. Feeling worthless, helpless, powerless, unacceptable, self-absorbed.
15. Low self-esteem and the feeling that there is no one with whom you can communicate openly, honestly, and intimately.

 Everyone of us would face this in some phase of our lives.But we should go by the fact that nothing is stable. Understand the situation and act wisely. Every second has to move on. Look back only at the positive side take the negatives only to improve yourself rather than destroying!!

Lyrics of tamil song Muzhumathi from the film kanimozhi!!

This is one song which I keep murmering all through the day...check out for a beautiful track!! Njoy listening to it :)

Movie : Kanimozhi
Music : Satish Chakravarthy
Singer(s) : Vijay Yesudas, Bela Shende
Lyrics : Na.Muthukumar
Song : Muzhumathi..

Muzhumathi Muzhumathi Nilavai Keladi
Muzhuvadhum Muzhuvadhum Unmai Thaanadi
Kaadhalil Karaindhavan En Poal Yaaradiyo
Eththanai Eththanai Kaadhal Paarthadhu
Eththanai Eththanai Kanavai Kettadhu
Enppoal Yaarumey Illai Endradhu Kel Ho..
Nilavukku Nilavukku Ondrai Therindhathu
Uyarathil Uyarathil Nindrey Purindhathu
Kanavukku Kanavukku Siragugal Mulaithadhey
Nilavinai Urasida Ninaivugal Parakkudhu
Muzhumathi Muzhumathi Nilavai Keladi
Muzhuvadhum Muzhuvadhum Unmai Thaanadi
Kaadhalil Karaindhavan En Poal Yaaradiyo

Kaaviya Kaadhal Aayiram Kadhaigal
Boomikku Sonnadhadiiii
Ninaivugalodu Vaazhvadhu Endhan
Kaadhal Sollumadiii
Ulagathil Sirandha Idam Adhai Thaedi
Undhan Idhayam Vantheney Vantheney
Un Viral Koarkkum Nimidathil Endhan
Thanimaikku Thanimai Thantheney Thantheney
Muzhumathi Muzhumathi Nilavai Keladi
Muzhuvadhum Muzhuvadhum Unmai Thaanadi
Kaadhalil Karaindhavan En Poal Yaaradiyo

Nadhi Ennum Kaadhalai Karaiyidam Vandhu
Alaigal Sonnadhadi
Marubadi Marubadi Alaiyidam Adhai
Karaigal Kaetkudhadi
Nadhiyinil Neendhum Nilavidhai Paarththu
Velichathai Alli Sindhaathey Sinthaatho
Kaalaiyil Namadhu Kaadhalai Yendhi
Vaanathai Pirindhu Selladhey Selladhey
Muzhumathi Muzhumathi Nilavai Keladi
Muzhuvadhum Muzhuvadhum Unmai Thaanadi
Kaadhalil Karaindhavan En Poal Yaaradiyo
Nilavukku Nilavukku Ondrai Therindhathu
Uyarathil Uyarathil Nindrey Purindhathu
Kanavukku Kanavukku Siragugal Mulaithadey
Nilavinai Urasida Ninaivugal Parakkudhu
Eththanai Eththanai Kaadhal Paarthadhu
Eththanai Eththanai Kanavai Kettadhu
Enpoal Yaarumey Illai Endradhu...