Being Possessive….

“She belongs to me!! Why can’t she keep talking to me?? Why doesn’t she tell me anything??”  These are a few questions which arise from a few people whom we see around us in our daily life. This boils down to one characteristic, Possessiveness. This particular trait can be found between the people in any relationship. They normally keep pondering over the thoughts of their friends and dear ones not being with them all the time or not sharing things with them. Possessive people normally carve for the attention of their friends or any relation that they feel secure with. Some people define it as love and care beyond limits, directed towards a particular person when we consider him/her as a part of our life.

Possessiveness is generally overpowering and commences people ending up thing deep about the relationship. It poses danger to the person who is possessive and the person he/she is being possessive of. It is due to feel of insecurity or low self esteem which in a relationship. Generally people won’t like it but they never show it out. Any relation in this world is based on 4 major factors “love, trust, intimacy and respect for people around”. These are normally called 4 pillars of a relation. When the pillars are strong everything goes well once there is some crack in the relation. The feeling of insecurity kindles and there are chances of destroying the whole relation. It s a known fact that people feel possessive of persons of the other sex.

Most of the time I hardly understand as to why people are so weird. I have found many a friends of mine who even wont allow their friends to talk to anyone else..Be yourself. Show care but don’t hurt the ones who care.If he/she is your friend then definitely they will be there for you all throughouth their lives .Trust  them. Don’t limit them nor instruct them as to whom they should speak or talk.

Loneliness!!

Man is a social creature. Normally we experience loneliness for the first time when we are away from home, family and friends and are no longer supported by familiar surroundings. Adapting to a new environment makes people uncertain of what to do or how to behave and breeds insecurities which, may be coupled with the lonely nature of job or work, can make for a real sense of isolation. For this reason, many people suffer from loneliness. Homesickness, nostalgia and many other behavioral negativities may increase the feeling of loneliness. Loneliness can be so powerful that it may bring about a deep and persistent feeling of uselessness and rejection from society.  Being alone does not represent loneliness, on the contrary being alone can be very healthy. We all need to be alone from time to time. We need to understand our self first and the best way is to be alone for a while analyse and then return back to normal life. Normally lonely people are ineffective at building relationships. They avoid communication because they think interaction may result in conflicts and conflicts or problems in a relationship mean that the relationship has ‘failed’ in some way. However this is not necessarily true, in fact healthy conflicts can make relationships stronger.  People normally prone to loneliness or feeling lonely negativity because they expect too much from friends and family. Many time their unrealistic expectations more than what they could reasonably expect from their relationships brings disillusionment, frustration and disappointment. Few of the major symptoms of feeling lonely symptom include: 

1. Bitterness towards life.
2. An inability to create, develop and maintain interpersonal relationships.
3. Self-preoccupied with excessive work.
4. Negative attitudes towards life.
5. Workholism.
6. Least interest in activities of others.
7. Lethargy.
8. Frequent sadness, loneliness or resentment.
9. A feeling of emptiness and being very much alone.
10. A feeling that your intimate needs are not being met or, if they are, they seem unsatisfying.
11. Few or no friends.
12. Excessive use of PC.
13. Feeling separated from other people.
14. Feeling worthless, helpless, powerless, unacceptable, self-absorbed.
15. Low self-esteem and the feeling that there is no one with whom you can communicate openly, honestly, and intimately.

 Everyone of us would face this in some phase of our lives.But we should go by the fact that nothing is stable. Understand the situation and act wisely. Every second has to move on. Look back only at the positive side take the negatives only to improve yourself rather than destroying!!

Lyrics of tamil song Muzhumathi from the film kanimozhi!!

This is one song which I keep murmering all through the day...check out for a beautiful track!! Njoy listening to it :)

Movie : Kanimozhi
Music : Satish Chakravarthy
Singer(s) : Vijay Yesudas, Bela Shende
Lyrics : Na.Muthukumar
Song : Muzhumathi..

Muzhumathi Muzhumathi Nilavai Keladi
Muzhuvadhum Muzhuvadhum Unmai Thaanadi
Kaadhalil Karaindhavan En Poal Yaaradiyo
Eththanai Eththanai Kaadhal Paarthadhu
Eththanai Eththanai Kanavai Kettadhu
Enppoal Yaarumey Illai Endradhu Kel Ho..
Nilavukku Nilavukku Ondrai Therindhathu
Uyarathil Uyarathil Nindrey Purindhathu
Kanavukku Kanavukku Siragugal Mulaithadhey
Nilavinai Urasida Ninaivugal Parakkudhu
Muzhumathi Muzhumathi Nilavai Keladi
Muzhuvadhum Muzhuvadhum Unmai Thaanadi
Kaadhalil Karaindhavan En Poal Yaaradiyo

Kaaviya Kaadhal Aayiram Kadhaigal
Boomikku Sonnadhadiiii
Ninaivugalodu Vaazhvadhu Endhan
Kaadhal Sollumadiii
Ulagathil Sirandha Idam Adhai Thaedi
Undhan Idhayam Vantheney Vantheney
Un Viral Koarkkum Nimidathil Endhan
Thanimaikku Thanimai Thantheney Thantheney
Muzhumathi Muzhumathi Nilavai Keladi
Muzhuvadhum Muzhuvadhum Unmai Thaanadi
Kaadhalil Karaindhavan En Poal Yaaradiyo

Nadhi Ennum Kaadhalai Karaiyidam Vandhu
Alaigal Sonnadhadi
Marubadi Marubadi Alaiyidam Adhai
Karaigal Kaetkudhadi
Nadhiyinil Neendhum Nilavidhai Paarththu
Velichathai Alli Sindhaathey Sinthaatho
Kaalaiyil Namadhu Kaadhalai Yendhi
Vaanathai Pirindhu Selladhey Selladhey
Muzhumathi Muzhumathi Nilavai Keladi
Muzhuvadhum Muzhuvadhum Unmai Thaanadi
Kaadhalil Karaindhavan En Poal Yaaradiyo
Nilavukku Nilavukku Ondrai Therindhathu
Uyarathil Uyarathil Nindrey Purindhathu
Kanavukku Kanavukku Siragugal Mulaithadey
Nilavinai Urasida Ninaivugal Parakkudhu
Eththanai Eththanai Kaadhal Paarthadhu
Eththanai Eththanai Kanavai Kettadhu
Enpoal Yaarumey Illai Endradhu...

அவனுக்காக மட்டும்(OnLy FoR HiM)………….

என்னையே  உன்னிடத்தில்   ஒப்படைக்கும்
என்னவனுக்காக  நான் எழுதும்
முதல்  கவிதை…
இதோ  உனக்காக!!!
ஒவ்வொரு  நொடியும்  உன்னை
படித்து  கொண்டிருக்கிறேன்
காதல்  என்னும்  பரிட்சையில்
பாஸ்  ஆக!!!
ஆனால் நீயோ  உனது
செமஸ்டர்  examirku  உறங்காமல்
படிக்கிறாய்   ஒரு  நொடி  கூட
என்னை  நினைக்காமல்!!!!
உன்  வருகையை  எதிபார்ப்பது
நான்  மட்டும்  அல்ல
என்னுயிர்  தோழனும்  தான்!!!
நான் உறங்கினாலும்  உன்  வருகையை
காண  உறங்காமல்  காத்திருந்து
மெதுவாக  காதல்  பாட்டு பாடும்
என்   மொபைல்(தோழன்)  தான்!!!!
உன்னை  காண  என்  விழிகளுக்கு
நீ  தேதி  குறித்து  விட்டாய்
எப்பொழுது  தேதி  குறிப்பாய்
என்  காதல்  என்னும்  கனவை
மணவறையில்  மாலை சூட
அல்லது  கல்லறை  என்னும்
மலர்  தோட்டத்தில்  புதைக்க
என்றும்  காத்திருக்கிறேன்  உன்  வருகைக்காக!!!
-காதலுடன்  காதலி!!!

In English:

To the person whom I surrender myself
My first poem for my love
This is for you!!
Each second I keep reading you
To get a pass in the exam of love!!
But you keep studying for your semester exams,
Sleepless without even thinking about me for a second!!
I m not the one person who expects your arrival
But also my beloved friend!!
Even if I sleep he awaits
your arrival with sleepless nights
None other than the one
which sings love songs in low voice
Its my mobile!!
You have marked the dates
For me to have a look at you,
But when will you mark the dates
For the dream of my love to be carried forward
Either to the marriage hall to tie the knot
Or
To the crematorial ground for burying me
Always awaiting for your arraival
-With love
    Your lover!!!


உன்னுடன்  பேசிய  அந்த
ஏழு  நிமிடங்கள்  கடந்து  விட்டது
ஆனாலும்  உன்  நினைவுகளுடன்
பேசி  கொண்டிருக்கிறேன்  ஏனென்றால்
உன்னை  disturb   பண்ணாமல்  இருக்க!!!!
நீ  சொல்லிய  ம் ம் ம் என்ற  வார்த்தையை
நானும்  சொல்லி  ரசித்தேன்  இப்படித்தான்
என்  கல்வன்  பேசுவான்  என்று!!!
மீண்டும்  உன்னிடம்  பேச  ஆசை  படுகிறேன்
என்றும்  காத்திருக்கிறேன்  உன்  அழைபிற்காக!!!
-காதலுடன் மொபைல்!!!

In English:

The time that I spent with u
those 7 seconds have passed by,
But still I continue speaking with your thoughts
coz I don’t want to disturb you again!!!
The words which u uttered which sounded mm mm mm
I loved listening to them and imagined,
that this was the way how my lover would sound.
Wishing to talk to you again,
Hoping and awaiting your call!!
-With love
mobile phone!!

by sanju & gowthami!!

lyrics of the tamil song iragai pole from the movie nan mahan alla

I have been a die hard fan of this song!! The song iragai pole from the movie nan mahan alla has a very pleasing effect right from the first line.. The lyrics used by yugabarathi is really fantastic..This is one of the songs which I liked in the recent times hope you too enjoy the same!!
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Movie - Nan Mahan Alla(2010)
Language - Tamil
Actors - Karthi,kajal agarwal
Song - Iragai Pole..
Lyrics - Yugabharathy
Composer – Yuvan Shankar Raja
Singer - Yuvan & Tanvi Shah
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Iragai Pole alaigirene
unthan pechai ketkayile
kulanthai pola thavalkirene
unthan parvai theendayile
tholaiyaamal tholaithene
un kaigal ennai thottathum
karaiyaamal karainthene
un moochu kaatru pattathum
aniyaaya kadhal vanthathe
adangaathe aasai thanthathe
enakkulle etho minnal pole thottu
senrathe
Kannoram kadhal vandhaal
kanneerum thithippaagum
verondrum thevaiyillai
nee mattum pothum pothum
ennodu neeyum vandhaal
ellaame kaiyil serum
vaerondrum thevaiyillai
nee mattum pothum pothum
oh…
Kooda vanthu nee nirppathum
koodu vittu naan selvathum
thodarruthe thodaruthe nadagam..
paathi mattume solvathum
meethi nenjile enbathum
puriyuthe puriyuthe kaaranam..
nerangal theeruthe vegangal
kooduthe
poove unn kannukulle bhoomi
panthu sutthuthe..
Kannoram kadhal vandhal
kanneerum thithippaagum
verondrum thevaiyillai
nee mattum pothum pothum
ennodu neeyum vandhaal
ellaame kaiyil serum
verondrum thevaiyillai
nee mattum pothum pothum
oh...
Hey, ennaanatho yethanatho
illamal poche thookkamum...
kanne unai kaanamal naanillai
ohhh...
enmeethile un vaasanai
eppothum veesa parkkiren
anbe unai seramal vaazhvillai-
ohhh...
nee ennai kaanbathe vaanavil
ponrathe..
thoorathil unnai kandaal thooral
nenjil sinthuthe....
Ohh …
Ohh …
Kannoram kadhal vandhal
kanneerum thithippaagum
verondrum thevaiyillai
nee mattum pothum pothum
ennodu neeyum vandhaal
ellaame kaiyil serum
verondrum thevaiyillai
nee mattum pothum pothum -
Oh...

My college Hostel-My second home

                                   I was actually sowed in a very happy protective family.I never had any complaints on my evolution into this universe except for the moments when my sweet sister grabs something from me.When I was enjoying all the beauties of nature a sudden storm arose and my whole dream was shattered into pieces.. :-( The thundering news was nothing but my dad's transfer and my sister's seperation.Though I dont show the actuall sentiments in front of her it so happens that when your dear ones seperate from you, the ganga of sorrow(tears of course!!) will definitely start flowing from your eyes in a faster pace.The same thing happened to me too.

                                   Dad's transfer indirectly implied new surrondings,new friends,new college yet another time.I had actually completed my schooling and was about to enter into the "freebird college life"!He was actually posted in a rural area ,so finding a good college in that area was a bit difficult that too for a citybird like me.Dad actually tried many colleges near by, but to my surprise allmost everywhere they were giving preference only to caste rather than marks. Even after getting 90% marks it was difficult for me to get a computer science seat in the local colleges around for only reason that I was from an OC background.Only thing I heard people saying was "Ajar money hai to seat hai"..Still there were many to pay as much as 2.7laks for a normal B.Sc(Computer Technology) seat.But I felt really bad at one point, as I even after scoring 90% was denied a seat but the other person who scored less than 70% got the seat easily with black money. I was very clear in my point that if I study then it will be based only on the marks that I have scored and not because of someones recomendation or donation.As a result I lost few days of my college too yet achieved to get a seat in one of the finest colleges in coimbatore "CIT".

                                              Till now everything was fine.The actual thunder occured when my mom said,"Let Sanju stay in hostel for 3 years as travelling 2 hours a day would be difficult for her!!". I was like "what???????? hostel?????? :-( noooooooooooooooooooo :-) never mind I m ready to travel but please mama no hostel :-( " But no use :-( They had already planned and so I was gonna miss my family :-( That was my first seperation from home.A day before joining hostel my sis too left to her workplace at mysore.So with all my sorrow buried within I headed towards my hostel.In my early days it appeared to me like a jail but as days passed by, I started liking the place friends and my room too.I got a room which was actually shared by 4 (including me).At first mess food which appeared like poison tasted sweet once we started liking it and it even went to that extent that hostel food was appreciated the most when compared to home food.

                                              First year college life was actually fun and frightening though.Evening after the college all the hostellates will be called by the seniors seperately and ragged for fun,I was caught quite a few times!!Have really enjoyed a few of them but a few others I have strongly opposed as a result a few seniors are still against me and are still awaiting for an opportunity to trash me!!Second year got ourselves the pride of "seniors" and as days passed by the visits to home which was frequent during first year reduced to once in a month.We hostellates started loving it so much that most often days scholars used to get jealous of us!!

There were lots of benefits to a hostellate when compared to a dayskey, a few include:

1.Entering the class late and giving the silly excuse as "mess food was over and had to wait for it" or "water didn't come in hostel " etc., and every time the staffs accepted it :-)
2.Combine studies only on the day of the exam.( The previous night you can find all the lights in almost all the rooms blinking late night)
3.Unlimited gossips untill your mouth starts aching.
4.Unlimited outing with friends on weekends with no pressure from parents.
5.No lectures from parents (only on calls but thats adjustable)
6.No restrictions!!

Third year had the most of it!! Having placed in a MNC, lectures see u in high pride.We took the fullest advantage of it and bunked quite a few classes,boys were experts in that though. Hostel days was something everyone would treasure to have especially my same batch!!People say they see heaven only after their death but I experienced it when I was at CIT hostel!! I came across ways emotions,people with different habits behaviour and background in my 3 year hostel life.My rooms 216,324,415 have been with me all through my days :-) I m really proud to be a HOSTELLATE!!

Hostel lyf rocks!!

8th wonder in my flowerpot!!

      It was a nice cool wednesday morning and I had just come out of my room to inhale some fresh air and to get a pleasent view of the lake which was just opposite to my apartment.As I was just brushing my hair off the cool breeze from the lake, I turned my vision suddenly to my flower pots.Thought of watering them that moment.So got myself a mug of water and started watering them,as gardening is one of my hobby!!
                                                  As I was examining my tiny little flowerpots, I came across something strange.Crap!! What the hell was that?? Something white in colour, hard in structure and oval in shape!! At  first was scared to even touch it ,actually didnt get an exact idea as to what it was :-) as it was buried almost 70% in mud.With all my guts I pulled that white little substance out of my flowerpot.Guess what it actually was?? Well, it was a pegion’s egg!!:-)Wow that too in my flower pot.It was like an 8th wonder for me!! I was really surprised to see such a thing that too in my flowerpot.I rushed to my mom, pulled her off the bed and called her to see that 8th wonder.I was so excited that day that I started calling all my friends and astarted sharing about this.
                                                   I actually wanted to examine with that egg but like every other movie here too their was a villian!! Tat was none other than my mom ;-(( hope she doesnt reads this!!). She just threw the egg away from the balcony all I can do was shout ‘Mmmmmmmmmaaaaaaaaaaaaa’! I had many plans running through my mind one of which even included waiting for the baby to hatch from the egg, and see it fly some day!! But alas, all could see was some liquid coming out of that broken egg.I felt too bad for the egg!!But it still remains to be my 8th wonder.;-);-):-)

Memories..Tym to recollect!!

                    Memories.. !! The word by itself creates a wonderful atmosphere around us..Every single soul in this universe is filled with memories.. Either sweet one or the most painful one..Even if a 5 year old kid is asked about his memories he would reply about his ‘first birthday gift’ of ‘the first time when he fell from the bicycle’ etc..By course of time our memories too increases.. Memory is a way of holding onto the things you love, the things you are, the things you never want to lose. We never remember the exact days most often but we would recollect the exact moment!!

                     Most of us would have some of the sweet memories of our childhood days when we used to distribute chocolates to our classmates on our birthdays, the scolding’s that we used to get from our parents on showing the report cards for getting low marks, the tug of war with our sister/brother for no reasons.. The PT hours that we had, street cricket matches, playing in the rain etc etc etc,As we get older the memories too started getting older with us with inclusion of few more sweet memories like our ‘first crush’, ‘first love’, ‘first sight’, ‘first bunk in college’, etc,.. A part from this a feeling of motherhood, the most painful moment when one of our close one expired… all these things can never be forgotten!!! Memories create a mark in the deepest part of life and there is no eraser to erase these marks.. Once marked they are permanent!!! A few of us including me have the practice of writing diaries, they are actually the best way to recollect your memories…Experience speaks!! Another way keeping them alive is through photographs!!When everything around you is odd, just rewind a few of the pages from your book of secrets,  even with no one around you will feel awesome and lost in your own world recollecting those memories…

Remember those moments when tears flew from your parents eyes feeling proud about their son/daughter’s achievement? Remember those moments when you were feeding food for your daughter.. ahh a true feeling of motherhood isn’t it.. Not only sweet memories.. Recollect those days when you had a tough time with your boss/pm… ha ha..:-) That was a terrifying day isn’t it?? Now when u think of it u would automatically smile at it.
                        Memories are sweet if the incidents in it are sweet. There are many such incidents in our lives that we never want to have a flash back of.A few of them include breakups, some worst moments, etc. When I asked my friends on their view of memories i got to hear one wierd answer.."I hate memories!!" I was at first shocked when I heard it, as according to me memories are something which brings a long smile on everyones face.But was convinced once I knew the reason..Memories remind us about the past and when one's past itself is something to be erased what fun in recollecting them back again?? But that occurs in 1 per 20 ratio..

What ever it is memories are precious, no wonder have to be warehoused.Smile at every moment of life and the difficult tasks will seem too easy..Enjoy every single moment of your life…Your smile can be someone else’s memory…Keep smiling!!:-) Live every second of your life, it’s Your life!!Treasure your memories for the rest of your life….

Long Live all memories!!