Loneliness!!

Man is a social creature. Normally we experience loneliness for the first time when we are away from home, family and friends and are no longer supported by familiar surroundings. Adapting to a new environment makes people uncertain of what to do or how to behave and breeds insecurities which, may be coupled with the lonely nature of job or work, can make for a real sense of isolation. For this reason, many people suffer from loneliness. Homesickness, nostalgia and many other behavioral negativities may increase the feeling of loneliness. Loneliness can be so powerful that it may bring about a deep and persistent feeling of uselessness and rejection from society.  Being alone does not represent loneliness, on the contrary being alone can be very healthy. We all need to be alone from time to time. We need to understand our self first and the best way is to be alone for a while analyse and then return back to normal life. Normally lonely people are ineffective at building relationships. They avoid communication because they think interaction may result in conflicts and conflicts or problems in a relationship mean that the relationship has ‘failed’ in some way. However this is not necessarily true, in fact healthy conflicts can make relationships stronger.  People normally prone to loneliness or feeling lonely negativity because they expect too much from friends and family. Many time their unrealistic expectations more than what they could reasonably expect from their relationships brings disillusionment, frustration and disappointment. Few of the major symptoms of feeling lonely symptom include: 

1. Bitterness towards life.
2. An inability to create, develop and maintain interpersonal relationships.
3. Self-preoccupied with excessive work.
4. Negative attitudes towards life.
5. Workholism.
6. Least interest in activities of others.
7. Lethargy.
8. Frequent sadness, loneliness or resentment.
9. A feeling of emptiness and being very much alone.
10. A feeling that your intimate needs are not being met or, if they are, they seem unsatisfying.
11. Few or no friends.
12. Excessive use of PC.
13. Feeling separated from other people.
14. Feeling worthless, helpless, powerless, unacceptable, self-absorbed.
15. Low self-esteem and the feeling that there is no one with whom you can communicate openly, honestly, and intimately.

 Everyone of us would face this in some phase of our lives.But we should go by the fact that nothing is stable. Understand the situation and act wisely. Every second has to move on. Look back only at the positive side take the negatives only to improve yourself rather than destroying!!